It’s been 21 months of snuggles and convenient nights of sleep. However, somewhere down the line, in the last few months or so, co-sleeping has become less enjoyable.
It’s been 3 months since Jayden decided to wean from “Mama Nom Noms” (breastfeeding). And after being punched and head butt one time too many, I decided the time has come. The time for us to discontinue co-sleeping. The time for Jayden Elijah to start sleeping in his own bed, in his own room. The time for Greg and I to comfortably sleep together in the same bed. To enjoy each other before another baby checks into our bedroom. We’ve already added the Arm’s Reach bassinet to our things to get for our next baby. But until we start brewin’ up another cherub, we anticipate using those few hours of the night to remember what it’s like to be a couple. As parents, it is so easy to lose ourselves throughout long days of parenting and endless todos. Sometimes you just need a break. And a few hours spent alone at night sounds like the perfect getaway.
Like any new routine, it’s going to take some time to establish consistency. Jayden seems to do really well in his bed, but he has to be sleep before laying him down. Ultimately, we’d like for him to have an understanding of bedtime and where he has to sleep when the time comes. We are having a battle with bedtime. By the time he falls asleep, Greg and I are ready to go to bed too. We’ll be working on getting him to go to bed earlier in the near future. Right now we are just trying to get him adjusted to sleeping in his bed…in his room. One thing at a time, right?
For three days, we tried putting him down in his bed. Here are the results.
Day 1: He slept 4hrs in his bed and then came in our room.
Day 2: He slept 4hrs in his bed and then came in our room.
Day 3: I laid him in the bed and no more than 10 minutes, he started to whine. I was too tired to go through the cuddle and run routine, so I just tossed him, ok rolled him, in our bed. He was fine.
Because we are totally not digging having to get up to go in his room every time he wakes up, we decided to move his bed in our room. We moved his bed right next to ours, so that he could climb right in our bed if he needs to. And if he needed a snack, water, or eczema ointment rubbed on his skin, we could be there on demand, everything lined up on the night stand.
Day 1: He slept until the early morning. He got out of the bed and stood by our bedroom crying. Our beds are right next to each other and he goes for the door? We co-slept the rest of the morning.
Day 2: He slept until the early morning. He got up and stood next to his bed crying. We co-slept the rest of the morning.
Day 3: He slept until the early morning.
Day 4: He slept for 2 hours and woke up for water, but couldn’t get settled back into his bed. We cuddled him and put him in our bed.
I’m not sure of what awaits us, but we are so ready for this change. Next step, Operation No Paci. I don’t want to hear it. We did not plan to have him on this long, it just kinda…happened.
Are you currently transitioning from co-sleeping? How is it going? If you have already completed the process, go you! How’d it go?