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February 2012


    They blogged about blogging so I don’t have to.


    I don’t really blog about blogging, because it’s not why this blog exists. Sophistishe is a digital journal that I write in because I am too lazy to write with a pen, my handwriting is horrid, and I can pretty it up better than I can pretty up a notebook. Oh, and I like sharing and chatting with you. I’ve been reading more blogs lately and I’ve come across some posts that I swear I could have written myself, but because these bloggers did… I don’t have to :). Let’s take a look, shall we?

    When I first started blogging as a business, I was in the midst of uncertainty. And while it seemed I had just started my life, giving birth to life gave me purpose. But after having Jayden, ish got real… real quick. And I had to hustle hard and protect what was mine. Hate it or love it blogging has become more than just a hobby and in today’s economy, it has provided families with some stability through the pay cuts, layoffs, job hunts, and distress. In the past, I’ve apologized and felt guilty for being short and less forthcoming with people (especially those who’ve seemed to have been light years ahead of me in life achievements), but at the end of the day I had to protect the business that supports my family because at the time, there was no other way. And if that means less kudos on the interwebz… So.be.it. You get what you give back… yea, yea I got that memo, but everyone’s intentions aren’t always the best. I don’t mind sharing (certain things) with friends, family, and those who I admire. We’re a “community” and all, but don’t for a second get it twisted. Mama need a house, baby need some shoes. Anyway. Sara shares her sentiments on the risks of giving up her clientele (because that’s what it truly is) in 7 Reasons I Will Not Share My PR Contacts With You.

    With the tragic death of Whitney Houston, I started thinking about how fabulous she was and how hard it must have been to have been expected to put out epic work. Always. It’s something that us fans grew to expect. It has to be overwhelming to be under so much pressure, to have to be ahead of the game 24/7. Hell, I freak out when someone stares at me for more than 3 seconds. Well, the same holds true with well-known bloggers, although I hope we’ll never ever lose a blogger due to feelings of inadequacy. I went through a bout of feeling like a “has been”, but once I realized that all of the glitz and glam (which proved itself to stress me out, honestly) would be here after I worked on saying “no” to better my life and manage my household and other businesses (that don’t depend on popularity), nothing else mattered. Christy shares how to get over wanting it all as a blogger and handling disappointment gracefully in Highs and Lows of Blogging Stars–Beating the Bloggy Blues.

    In my newly revamped about page, I reminisce on the good ol’ bloggy days starting in 2001, spending long nights prettying up my blog, bantering on about my (then carefree) life, dates with Greg, and scouring and commenting on other blogs. Those were the days before getting wrapped up into Twitter, Facebook, and focusing solely on fulfilling blogging opps. True story: Back in ’06, I actually quit blogging for a few months because I couldn’t crack the formula to making any money from it. My priorities were kinda in the right and wrong places.

    Over the years of blogging (all 11 of them), I have developed a sense of who’s genuinely in my corner no matter what. I’m also enjoying new blogs that aren’t all mom blog/brand chatter, all day, every day. No offense, but it’s just not what I want to read anymore. I love seeing the everyday, life stories, and the expression of creativity too. I’m not the best at chronicling that on my end, but it’s what I like to read, darnit. In Groups & Tribes {Finding Support in the Blogosphere}, Amanda shares how to find new blogs to get lost in and comment on (with high reciprocation rates) just like the old days.

    I’ve struggled with writer’s block as Jayden grew older. I had become so used to sharing his milestones and as life started to idle, blogging got boring. I looked at old posts from my pregnancy, the fresh baby days and how exciting blogging was during that time. I’ve noticed a pattern in blogs that chronicle a pregnancy. People flock to the growing belly, congrats pour in once baby is born, but once that baby grows into a toddler, those comments sure start to dwindle and it’s on to the next belly. I’m not even gonna lie, I’ve imagined reliving that all over again with baby number two. Like OMG I can’t wait to get pregnant again so that I can blog about it… so I can become relevant again :-/. Because blogs about older children aren’t as fun and exciting… to me in my phase of baby fever. I’m sure as Jayden gets older, my interests will change.

    Once I reverted back to personal blogging, I became better at writing my thoughts and showing my personality. I realized that I had much more to share… brief intermissions from “Oh, my kid did something cute today”. In between child bearing and rearing, I’ll always have something to share even after Greg and I become empty nesters. Because I’ve no longer let being a parent define me or my blog. So does parent blogging have a shelf-life? I’d have to agree with Louise and say “of course not!” Sure took me a while to realize, though.

    What blog posts about blogging have you read lately?

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    SinfulColors Nail Polish Haul From Walgreens

    Yesterday, I treated myself to some new nail polish from Walgreens. SinfulColors were on sale fore 99 cents (until 2/18/12)! It felt good to grab a handful and line them up…

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